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Dating and Surrender

Writer's picture: Liz SokoLiz Soko

Women crave romance, because they are codependent. 


Romance should happen naturally like when two little kids like each other. Anything other than that natural evolution of wanting to hold hands is a marketed obsession.


You see adults become infatuated all the time - like what are you doing?


dating and surrender

When the man likes you; he’ll just want to sit next to you and look at you. It’s innocent like that, real love.


They show these flowers and flying people all over the world; but it’s so much expectation for young men.


Narcissists want this James Bond movie and it’s corrupting our whole society. 


How many Hollywood celebrities are happily married? How many of those ladies wearing white pants and okay sunglasses are actually happy?


Not many. So that is proof of failure. A failed theory and philosophy.


The two times I truly fell in love it felt like we were little kids. And you just want to giggle and take care of each other. It was so simple.


And because of that - they got me rings, flowers, candies, travel, and more. I had no expectations and that’s why they loved doing it. 


People are overthinking dating and relationships. This stupid narrative comes from wealthy people trying to control their kid’s lives. They set double standards for "high level" individuals and one night stands.


Your family should not be included in the dating process until at least 7 months in. It is not their relationship and meddling in yours destroys the other person’s self esteem.


In reality, the woman who is a one stand to your parents probably does not come from money and has liberated herself enough to catch your interest.


I have been in this situation so many times. The wealthy family does not approve of me, because I come from Staten Island or whatever. Who cares?


My philosophy on dating is complete surrender - it might be this or that. Who cares - if it's coming from your highest self's connection to the universe?



How do we make dating work again?


You have to date for marriage and kids otherwise you’re setting yourself up for failure.

You should not date to appease your parents and their ideal for how your kids should be. This leads to confusion and clouds your vision as to what you really want. 


I like to leave everything to the universe. At this moment, the universe wants me to be alone. In future moments, it may want something else.


This leads me to a deeper philosophical question.


Are human desires just selfish wishes that we should surrender to the universe?


Yes. I live a highly disciplined life that forces me to act righteously to feel good about myself. This is the right path, because it eradicates shame and guilt so you don’t project it onto others. This way of living promises balanced mental health, because you notice you have befriended yourself as an accountable ally.

Also, I have personally experienced the bliss of clean living and nothing on this planet compares to that. Why would I choose self destruction if I can experience a joyful, blissed out state just by being good?


The same applies to dating. Bring your lifestyle into it. Make sure people match how you live right now if you feel you are doing your best.


The universe will bring me what is meant for me when the timing is right.


This philosophy on dating will shift a lot of people’s relationships around. 


“I sacrifice my desires to the will of the universe”.


Just like that, you have liberated yourself. Nothing to worry about.


LS

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